After a long walk in Mangalore roads on 6
th December 2009 at 2230hrs I was returning back to my room. I was so very much exhausted,I decided to take a dinner parcel in my room. For a long time my phone was ringing in my pocket as I didn't knew it as I was walking. I removed my phone from my pocket and to my surprise it was my friend Pravin's call. I was thinking why is he calling right now.
I said "Hellow..."
Pravin said "Hellon...,How are you? Are you free I want to tell you something".
I felt he is in Bangalore as he was planning to come to meet couple of his old friends.
I was curious "Yeah whats the matter mate".
He said "I am committed" ;
I was surprised and said "What kind of commitment you are talking about."
He explained "I am getting married in the month of May and getting engaged in the month of February"
I was quite thrilled and excited "Hurrah..hurrah..That is cool man...How come so early..."
Umpteen number of questions I fired on him as it was a very surprising news. Many of my colleagues and friends got married but I was not so much excited as I am presently. As he was one among close friends of mine from college. Among some of the close friends from college he is the first one to get married which is really a wonderful and surprising news. I am very happy for him as he will be getting into a pure relationship with some one. I want to wish my friend the very best in his life and marriage.
Many of my friends and relatives got married in last 2-3 years. I have seen many successful married life , some married life which strained due to some irregularities. I can just imagine what they must be feeling to get into a relationship. After observing lot of marriage lives and success stories everyone can draw some layout about the marriges and the life aftermath.
Even I thought of expressing my views on how to make a married life successful. May be my comments would be quite immature as I am not married yet and even I may not be quite wise to comment on such an issue. But still I will keep my perspective in front of you. I would call it 5 principles for a successful marriage. Now the question is why am I so much interested in this topic. Am I in a hurry to get married. The answer is I just felt like expressing, and I am sure I will not get married so early and even if I get married it will be atleast after 5-6 years from now. Anyways, I will come to the point.
Cute Couple
5 Principles for a Successful Marriage :
1) Spend Time with each other In this competitive world every human is so much involved in his/her own work that he/she hardly finds time to think about others. This could happen even with couple who are married with each other for a long time. It is quite essential when couples take time to spend some quality time with each other to discuss big things to the small things. Everyone likes to talk about himself/herself and they will become more happier if someone patiently listens to them and appreciate. Discuss with your spouse about your aspirations,about his/her aspirations. Find ways to fulfil each others aspirations. Discuss with each other about health issues,excercise together, do shopping, cook together. May be in the process the time which you spend together would be more fruitful and filled with unlimited joy.
2) Laugh and crack jokes Even if you are seeing a movie in a theater as soon as a joke sequence comes or a scene which is full of humour you start to laugh and giggle and our whole happiness is shown in front. In the same way in life also if there doesnt exist any humour then it will be quite boring and irritating. If couples can crack joke on each other and share a lighter moment whenever possible will create a quite positive and happier atmosphere all over.
3) Talk and SolveJust imagine a situation "You are very sick and you are not willing to talk and share your health problems with the doctor, no matter how stong willed you are, you will break one day". In the similar way if you are having some issues with your spouse, about their attitude, their behaviour, your behaviour it will be of no use keeping it within your self and bursting within yourself. It would be wonderful and encouraging if your can speak with your spouse and sort out the differences. That would be an ideal way to win the heart of your spouse by being truthful about your emotions and wishes.
4) Understand The most important aspect for any marriage to last life long is the ability to understand your spouse. You cannot expect your spouse to be a superhuman or a robot so that he/she will never make any mistakes. It would be stupid to assume that your spouse will understand everything what you have said or you want to say. May be you can express yourself to make the other person understand your emotions. Once you are able to undestand your spouse then he/she will be so very much satisfied with you, then there cannot be any problems due to misunderstanding.
5) Acceptance The most irritating thing which you can do to a spouse is to change him/her. If you want to change someone then you need to change yourself for the sake of your and your spouse happiness. You have the whole right to change your spouse if he/she is in the wrong path. You may like or dislike somethings in your spouse, but you need to accept it as he/she will be living with you the whole life. Certain things can be changed and your spouse may be working on that, it is at this time you may have to support and give him/her the time for change for the betterment of both of you.
These are the basic principles according to me which is even required to maintain any small relationship, may it be with your friends,relatives...or your colleagues...In the end I would like to wish all those couples who already got married and who will get married a
wonderful life with pure commitment towards each other.
After reading this many of my friends,colleagues and relatives might have become surprised and must be wondering "How come Ketan has improved a lot these days and from where did he develop these traits on relationship. As he was not the same couple of years back..." For this my answer would be "May be I have started to understand relationship and in simple words I am becoming a
human..."
Thank you...Keep smiling...
Moral : Successful marriage and the life after depends on the commitment which the couple show towards each other.